God works in mysterious ways…. or fate or whatever you believe in. A simple thinking of oh… I want that parking but that person is handling a handicap person I decided to give that parking to that someone. As I turned the corner to look for another one… I saw a car coming out and someone waving a ticket at me…. it was an old lady saying… you don’t have to pay the ticket I still have an hour left… and she drove off. All happened in 5 minutes. I was flabbergasted. It is nice when you do something nice without expecting it you get something in return. Even if it is just a smile sharing your concern.
I totally believe in paying it forward. I remember I found a $5 note on the ground and I don’t know who it belongs to… so I just stuck it on a car closest to me… I hope it made someone’s day.
Once I gave $50 to the cleaner that says hello to me everyday as I go up the escalators from the carpark to the office. Most of the time she is just another cleaner that everyone ignores and looks down upon. And they themselves just keep their head down. I keep telling myself during Eid celebrations one day I will give her money to celebrate Eid as she is away from her family. So just before Eid, I gave her the gift. And she said Thank you so much. This money she will use to buy food for her and her friends to celebrate Eid as they had sent all their money to their families back home. We have each other a teary big huge hug and I said goodbye to her. I haven’t seen in a long while because I don’t go there anymore. I think about her and all the unseen people in the background cleaning up after us and not being acknowledged. Instead they are looked down upon.
I guess in retrospect… part of my depression is that whilst I was being nice to people…. why aren’t people being nice to me. I do what I have been tasked to do and do everything as right as i could… but somehow… there is no well done or anything.
This my psychiatrist calls me PEOPLE PLEASER syndrome. I wanted to be everyone’s friend, I wanted to be amongst the rich and famous, the smart and elite. I just want everyone to like me… because I am a nice person. But why people won’t be friends with me? I often question that before. But now…. like Taylor says…. Shake it Off!!! Time to face the music and grow up.
Noone tells you this part of life…. I call it the 2nd phase of life… I would say to people now, the person you are TODAY will not be able to carry you through to the person you will be in the FUTURE. It is true… The 40s or 39 to be 40 or whatever is the age of that. The FUTURE…. what lies beyond that frontier!
I can’t wait to share with you what I will be doing to get through this horrid disease. As you can notice my tone goes up one moment and down one moment… sometimes I talk gibberish and sometimes I sound so full of wisdom.
All I know is… by the end of this year… I would like my Doctor to say I am fit to work and go for interviews and maybe a certificate of some kind. Or find a freelance job. Who knows? Well that is my goal for the year. I promised a good friend of mine that I promise to start exercising to get off my 5 medications…. but that I can’t promise… I think at the moment it is impossible.
Nite nite all.
Signing off!!
PEACE!